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Helping Kids Cope with Divorce

Updated: May 18, 2023

By Preeti (Rajpreet Taneja) Taneja, R.S.W, M.S.W, B.S.W Founder and Lead Therapist, Canadian Therapy

Divorce isn’t easy for anyone, but children can take it particularly hard. Many children don’t understand what is happening, and many more feel the divorce is somehow their fault.

Here’s how you can help your child cope:

Communicate Openly

The divorce should be explained in simple and straightforward terms. If at all possible, both parents should be part of the conversation. Your language should be tailored to the age of your children as well. So, for instance, when speaking with very small children, you might say something like, “Mommy and Daddy yell at each other a lot, and everyone is feeling unhappy. So we have decided to live in different houses. But we love you very much, and we will both take care of you still.”

Keep Things Predictable

Children do best when their environments are familiar and predictable. Do your best to provide the structure, and routine your children have become used to.

Explain How Things Will Work

Many children will panic at the news; they will not understand how both Mommy and Daddy will remain in their lives. So clearly explain how things will work going forward. “You will spend weekends with Daddy, and the rest of the time, you will be here with Mommy.” You may also want to work on creating a calendar together, so your child has something to refer to.

Never Speak Badly About Your Ex

Your ex may have caused you a lot of emotional pain in your relationship, but to your child, that ex is their mommy or daddy. Never speak unkindly about your child’s other parent.

Encourage Your Children to Speak Honestly About Their Emotions

Your child will sense that YOU are dealing with many emotions, and, wanting to protect you, he or she will keep their emotions to themselves. You must encourage your children to talk to you candidly about their feelings. Let them know they can come to you anytime and talk to you, whether they are scared, sad, or angry.

Seek Guidance

Everyone’s situation is different – and all children are different. Some may take the news better than others. You may find that your child is suffering more than you originally expected. If this happens, it may be a good idea to seek help from a trained family therapist, who can give all of you helpful coping tools.

If you are going through a divorce and would like to discuss treatment options, please visit our website to book an appointment with a date and time that works for you. Our therapists are happy to discuss how they may help, and all therapists at Canadian Therapy offer online therapy sessions for those who feel more comfortable accessing help from home.


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